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The breakup - thoughts?

Okay, I'd made a video about this, but all the video uploading sites are hating on me right now, so I'll have to type it out.

The Boy dumped me. Just like that. No warning, no conversation, no second chance, nothing. Pretty much just "Okay, it's over now. kthxbai."

Kawhuh? o_0

Oh, and apparently he'd been planning on dumping me for a couple of weeks now. And he'd had doubts since CHRISTMAS LAST YEAR. Gee, thanks for letting me know! I guess I'm just not worth a conversation about it? BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT YOU DO IN A RELATIONSHIP. YOU TALK ABOUT YOUR ISSUES. You don't just let the other person think that everything's okay! And you definitely don't LIE TO THEIR FACE when they ask you if everything's all right. You don't tell them not to worry about getting dumped when THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT YOU'RE PLANNING TO DO.

Sorry about the caps lock. I'm just a teeny bit upset, you see. I have about -5% self-confidence, but even I would have treated myself better. I at least deserved a conversation, no?

Am I just expecting too much from a person who I've been dating for almost two years? Anyone?

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starry_eyed_85
Oct. 13th, 2010 10:20 am (UTC)
I'm sorry. :( *Huggles*

Of course you're not expecting too much. A conversation about it is definitely expected and required! He's very much at fault for not doing that. However, it could be argued that although he was "having doubts" for all that time he was trying to resolve them in his own mind without worrying you.

*More huggles*
ext_284065
Oct. 13th, 2010 05:36 pm (UTC)
my thoughts
I totally feel you. I have to say I always kinda liked him, seemed like a decent guy, respectful and understanding, but this just sucks. The only thing I can say that may or may not cheer you up is: the fact that it took him so long to tell you this prolly means he cared a lot, trying to procrastinate, finding it hard to tell you this because he knew you were gonna get hurt. This, I think, is also why he preferred the quick breakup when he finally did have the guts (like that removing a band-aid crap). Anyway, give it some time, this kinda shit is never easy... But don't try to figure it all out, it usually doesn't help. You did nothing wrong. Don't beat yourself up.
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